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Your Child and AI Chatbots

AI apps change every few months. This page keeps your book current: the latest settings, what has changed since printing, the monthly check, and where to get help.

Last checked 14 October 2026For readers of the book, and anyone else

Since the book was printed

What's changed

Every change to the settings and apps covered in the book, newest first.

  1. 14 October 2026

    Companion page launched

    Every setting in Chapter 6 was re-checked and is still accurate. Nothing has changed since the book was published. When an app moves a setting or adds a new control, it will be listed here with the date.

Spotted a setting that has moved? Tell us and we'll check it.

Chapter 6 · Day 3

Parental controls at a glance

Do this with your teen where you can: controls set up together are far less likely to be bypassed. If a menu has moved, search the app's help center for "parental controls" or "family settings".

ChatGPT

Where: Your ChatGPT settings → Parental controls → invite your teen's account

  • Quiet hours, such as school nights after 10 p.m.
  • Turn off memory, voice mode, and image generation
  • Opt out of model training
  • Safety notifications if there are signs of serious distress

Minimum age 13, with a parent's permission under 18. You can't read your teen's conversations; that's deliberate.

Google Gemini

Where: Google Family Link app → your child's account → Gemini

  • Allow or block Gemini for children under 13
  • Review age and supervision settings on a teen's account

Controls are limited: a signed-out child may still reach Gemini in a browser. Combine with device controls and supervision.

Meta AI

Where: Instagram, WhatsApp, Messenger, Facebook → Meta supervision tools

  • The Insights tab shows the general topics your teen asked Meta AI about last week
  • Suggested conversation starters based on those topics

Teens' access to Meta's AI characters has been paused since early 2026. Insights launched in April 2026 in the US, UK, Australia, Canada and Brazil; you see topics, not conversations.

Snapchat My AI

Where: Snapchat settings → Family Center

  • Stop My AI from responding to your teen
  • See their friends list and some safety settings

My AI sits at the top of the chat list for many users.

iPhone and iPad

Where: Settings → Screen Time (through Family Sharing)

  • Ask to Buy: new apps need your approval
  • Downtime for night hours
  • App Limits for AI and social apps
  • Content & Privacy Restrictions for adult websites and app age ratings

Device controls protect every app, including new ones your child downloads.

Android and Chromebook

Where: Google Family Link app

  • Require approval for app downloads
  • Set bedtime and daily limits
  • Block specific apps and filter websites in Chrome

This is your strongest layer of protection.

Companion and character apps

Where: Block at the device level (Screen Time or Family Link)

  • Family rule for under-18s: "not in our family, for now"
  • Include it in your Family AI Agreement

No parental control makes a companion or romance app suitable for a child. Character.AI has removed open-ended chat for under-18s, but many similar apps have weaker safeguards.

Home Wi-Fi

Where: Your router's app, or ask your internet provider

  • Pause internet access for specific devices at night

A useful backstop when app settings aren't enough.

The most protective setting isn't in any app

Devices charge outside bedrooms at night. Late-night conversations are when children are most tired, most emotional and most likely to share too much. Make the rule apply to adults too, so it feels fair.

Chapter 11 · Workbook 9

The monthly 10-minute check

Once a month, ideally on the same day. Tick as you go; the list clears itself next month.

0 of 5 done

Ticks are saved in this browser only and clear each month.

Twice a year

The six-month review

Every six months, or after a birthday.

  1. 1Revisit the Ages and Stages table (Chapter 4): is it time for more independence?
  2. 2Review and re-sign the Family AI Agreement
  3. 3Update the school's AI rules in Workbook 5
  4. 4Check that help numbers in Workbook 8 are still correct
Tip: put a repeating reminder in your phone's calendar for both checks.

Before you say yes

A new AI app? Ask four questions

1

Who made it, and what's the minimum age?

Check the app store page and terms.

2

Is it a companion or character app?

If yes, the family rule applies.

3

What does it remember and share?

Look for memory, training and privacy settings.

4

What parental controls exist?

If none, use device controls and supervision.

For free AI risk ratings of popular apps, see Common Sense Media .

Chapter 10

Warning signs and what to do

Most children's AI use is harmless. Watch for changes, not single events.

Signs of over-reliance

  • Prefers talking to an AI over friends or family, or talks about it as a real friend or partner
  • Upset, angry or anxious when unable to use it
  • Uses AI late at night or hides how much they use it
  • Withdraws from activities, hobbies or family time
  • Grades drop, or schoolwork suddenly seems AI-written
  • Secrecy about apps or deleting chat histories

If you see these signs

  1. Choose a calm moment, not mid-argument or late at night.
  2. Describe what you've noticed, without blame.
  3. Ask about the need, not just the app.
  4. Meet the need in the real world.
  5. Tighten the frame for a while, as care, not punishment.
  6. Check in again in a week.

Get help today if your child

  • talks about wanting to die, hurting themselves, or not being around
  • shows signs of an eating disorder, serious self-harm or substance use
  • says an AI encouraged them to hurt themselves or others, or to keep dangerous secrets
  • has been asked for sexual images online, or is being threatened with images

For immediate danger, call your local emergency number (999 in Malaysia, 911 in the US). Stay with your child, remove access to anything they could use to hurt themselves, and contact your doctor or a mental health professional. You don't need the right words; being present and getting help is what matters.

Help lines

Workbook 8

Help lines

Checked 14 October 2026. Services can change, so confirm these numbers when you fill in Workbook 8.

Malaysia

  • Talian HEAL 15555

    Ministry of Health mental health line

  • Befrienders KL 03-7627 2929

    Emotional support, confidential

  • Emergency: 999

United States

  • 988

    Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: call or text 988

  • Emergency: 911

Anywhere

If sexual or fake images are involved

  1. 1Reassure your child they're not in trouble and you'll handle it together.
  2. 2Don't forward or share the images, even to report them. Screenshot usernames, messages and links instead.
  3. 3Don't pay or negotiate with anyone making threats.
  4. 4Report to the platform and the police. In Malaysia you can also report to the MCMC.
  5. 5Use Take It Down to remove sexual images of under-18s from participating platforms, without uploading the image itself.
  6. 6Get emotional support for your child. These situations are deeply distressing.

The full series

The Digital Family Playbooks

Five practical guides by Syaifudin Ramzan for parenting in the age of AI and smartphones, each with a fillable workbook.

About the author

This page gives general information, not legal, medical or financial advice. KopiBuku is not affiliated with OpenAI, Google, Meta, Snap, Apple or Character.AI.