Companion page · The Digital Family Playbooks · Book 1
Your Child and AI Chatbots
AI apps change every few months. This page keeps your book current: the latest settings, what has changed since printing, the monthly check, and where to get help.
Last checked 14 October 2026For readers of the book, and anyone else
Every change to the settings and apps covered in the book, newest first.
14 October 2026
Companion page launched
Every setting in Chapter 6 was re-checked and is still accurate. Nothing has changed since the book was published. When an app moves a setting or adds a new control, it will be listed here with the date.
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Chapter 6 · Day 3
Parental controls at a glance
Do this with your teen where you can: controls set up together are far less likely to be bypassed. If a menu has moved, search the app's help center for "parental controls" or "family settings".
ChatGPT
Where: Your ChatGPT settings → Parental controls → invite your teen's account
Quiet hours, such as school nights after 10 p.m.
Turn off memory, voice mode, and image generation
Opt out of model training
Safety notifications if there are signs of serious distress
Minimum age 13, with a parent's permission under 18. You can't read your teen's conversations; that's deliberate.
Google Gemini
Where: Google Family Link app → your child's account → Gemini
Allow or block Gemini for children under 13
Review age and supervision settings on a teen's account
Controls are limited: a signed-out child may still reach Gemini in a browser. Combine with device controls and supervision.
Meta AI
Where: Instagram, WhatsApp, Messenger, Facebook → Meta supervision tools
The Insights tab shows the general topics your teen asked Meta AI about last week
Suggested conversation starters based on those topics
Teens' access to Meta's AI characters has been paused since early 2026. Insights launched in April 2026 in the US, UK, Australia, Canada and Brazil; you see topics, not conversations.
Snapchat My AI
Where: Snapchat settings → Family Center
Stop My AI from responding to your teen
See their friends list and some safety settings
My AI sits at the top of the chat list for many users.
iPhone and iPad
Where: Settings → Screen Time (through Family Sharing)
Ask to Buy: new apps need your approval
Downtime for night hours
App Limits for AI and social apps
Content & Privacy Restrictions for adult websites and app age ratings
Device controls protect every app, including new ones your child downloads.
Android and Chromebook
Where: Google Family Link app
Require approval for app downloads
Set bedtime and daily limits
Block specific apps and filter websites in Chrome
This is your strongest layer of protection.
Companion and character apps
Where: Block at the device level (Screen Time or Family Link)
Family rule for under-18s: "not in our family, for now"
Include it in your Family AI Agreement
No parental control makes a companion or romance app suitable for a child. Character.AI has removed open-ended chat for under-18s, but many similar apps have weaker safeguards.
Home Wi-Fi
Where: Your router's app, or ask your internet provider
Pause internet access for specific devices at night
A useful backstop when app settings aren't enough.
The most protective setting isn't in any app
Devices charge outside bedrooms at night. Late-night conversations are when children are most tired, most emotional and most likely to share too much. Make the rule apply to adults too, so it feels fair.
Chapter 11 · Workbook 9
The monthly 10-minute check
Once a month, ideally on the same day. Tick as you go; the list clears itself next month.
0 of 5 done
Ticks are saved in this browser only and clear each month.
Twice a year
The six-month review
Every six months, or after a birthday.
1Revisit the Ages and Stages table (Chapter 4): is it time for more independence?
2Review and re-sign the Family AI Agreement
3Update the school's AI rules in Workbook 5
4Check that help numbers in Workbook 8 are still correct
Tip: put a repeating reminder in your phone's calendar for both checks.
Most children's AI use is harmless. Watch for changes, not single events.
Signs of over-reliance
Prefers talking to an AI over friends or family, or talks about it as a real friend or partner
Upset, angry or anxious when unable to use it
Uses AI late at night or hides how much they use it
Withdraws from activities, hobbies or family time
Grades drop, or schoolwork suddenly seems AI-written
Secrecy about apps or deleting chat histories
If you see these signs
Choose a calm moment, not mid-argument or late at night.
Describe what you've noticed, without blame.
Ask about the need, not just the app.
Meet the need in the real world.
Tighten the frame for a while, as care, not punishment.
Check in again in a week.
Get help today if your child
talks about wanting to die, hurting themselves, or not being around
shows signs of an eating disorder, serious self-harm or substance use
says an AI encouraged them to hurt themselves or others, or to keep dangerous secrets
has been asked for sexual images online, or is being threatened with images
For immediate danger, call your local emergency number (999 in Malaysia, 911 in the US). Stay with your child, remove access to anything they could use to hurt themselves, and contact your doctor or a mental health professional. You don't need the right words; being present and getting help is what matters.
This page gives general information, not legal, medical or financial advice. KopiBuku is not affiliated with OpenAI, Google, Meta, Snap, Apple or Character.AI.